Category Archives: Relationships

Three stages of compassion

For the first half hour bumping through the clouds in this small plane I’ve been trying to make small talk with the guy sitting next to me. The weather. Is this vacation or work? Where is home? Short questions and … Continue reading

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The Key to Authenticity: Being Vulnerable

Recently a wind storm knocked over one of my favourite trees in our neighbourhood, a large cedar that must have been about 200 years old. City workers moved in with saws to shave the new stump, revealing the wide and … Continue reading

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The mirror of nowness: feedback you can trust

    Mindful Communication; A Mirror for Effective Feedback   Kris, the woman sitting next to me on the plane, was returning from what she called a ‘new kind’ of management conference.  “What was different about it?” I asked, curious … Continue reading

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Outer resolution, inner courage

    Last week around 45 people celebrated New Year’s in a silent winter retreat in the heart of downtown San Francisco.  Along with plenty of sitting meditation, we were exploring what happens when we make a commitment , like … Continue reading

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Hearts and Blessings

Blessings and Hearts   Today my American family and friends are celebrating Thanksgiving. Internet sites are posting stories about all we have to be thankful for.  In particular, I was reading a text by psychologist Dr. Robert Emmons about the … Continue reading

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Listening To Joy

Joy slips into my life by surprise.  I click an e-mail attachment and the eyes of my friend’s new-born baby blink open.  The traffic’s stopped in the rain at a construction zone– out of nowhere, a brilliant rainbow!  A spring … Continue reading

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Listening to pain

Normally we think of mindfulness as a peaceful experience.  But there is an unbearably painful side to this practice of waking up. For me, this happens when a story from the news comes to life and pierces my heart like an … Continue reading

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Listening is love

I’m grateful to have been invited to join the radio program  An Organic Conversation  http://www.anorganicconversation.com/  on March 17.   The topic is  listening as love.  To me, this is the magic of mindful communication. Here’s a simple formula for this:  … Continue reading

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